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Finding Hope in the Hurt
by Jenny on July 26th, 2015

"Why am I discouraged? Why is my heart so sad? I will put my hope in God! I will praise Him again—my Savior and my God!" Psalm 42:11

It's been ten years but I've yet to make it through a chorus of "Happy Birthday" to our oldest daughter without choking up in tears. Birthdays prove challenging when you've lost a multiple--you rejoice over the child that remains but you mourn the child (sometimes children) that you lost. 

It's been ten years but it still hurts. And on top of the hurt I add a dollop of guilt for feeling sad. My surviving twin daughter joyously looks forward to her birthday--what kid doesn't?!? I don't want her to know that I spend at least a few hours each year feeling crushed by grief. The heaviness of disappointment keeps me from breathing in deeply the memories of all the good things God has done since and through our loss.

As feelings of sadness and grief engulfed me this morning I prayed that God would show me a way out from under the pain. The sweet Spirit of God caused me to remember the words penned by Jeremiah in Lamentations 3:19-22.

"The thought of my suffering and homelessness is bitter beyond words. I will never forget this awful time, as I grieve over my loss. Yet I still dare to hope when I remember this: the faithful love of the Lord never ends!"

Jeremiah was known as the weeping prophet. Jeremiah was a man familiar with hopelessness and grief. Yet Jeremiah dared to hope when he remembered the faithful love of his Lord.

That's the difference between experiencing pain and suffering as a believer, and experiencing pain and suffering as an unbeliever--those who have been reconciled to God through faith in Christ have hope.

Hope that God is good even when life isn't (Psalm 119:68, Romans 8:28).

Hope that God is always at work even when life seems stagnant (Ecclesiastes 3:11).

Hope that God will work all things for His glory even amidst suffering (John 9:3, Romans 11:36).

The Psalmist declared in Psalm 119:71, "My suffering was good for me, for it taught me to pay attention to Your decrees."

When speaking to God about his own hurt and loss Job wrote, "I had only heart about You before, but now I have seen You with my own eyes."  (Job 42:5)

If we'll allow Him, God will use our suffering to cause us to know Him as the Healer.

Living life as a believer does not shield us from hurt or loss but it does give us hope for the journey to healing. As with any physical injury, sometimes we will experience pain and soreness as our emotional wounds heal. We find hope in the hurt when we remember the faithful love of our Lord.

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Jean Boles - July 26th, 2015 at 5:06 PM
I lost a pregnancy 37 years ago and still grieve.Thank you so much for these kinds words and reminders of God's love, promises and provisions. I'm so thankful you are in my life.

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I am a stay-at-home, homeschooling, Bible-teaching mom of six, and wife to my college sweetheart. I believe everyone can live a life of abundance through a personal relationship with Jesus Christ and radical obedience to His Word.

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